Every morning I woke up sad and demotivated. There were some days that went by okay, where I felt all energized and motivated but that high lasted for a very short time. I would find myself returning to the same circle of negativity and bad energy. I realized things could not go on longer like this. What had I become? When I looked in the mirror, I would criticize myself and put myself down further. The day I decided to change my life, is when everything changed for the better.
What exactly happened the day I decided to change my life
You know how they say, we meet people for a reason. Some people come into your life to teach you a lesson. I think a similar thing happened to me. I met this girl in my new class, we will call her A for the sake of this story. When I first met her, I did not think much of it. We exchanged a few words and went our separate ways. It was only a few weeks later that I began to see how different she was.
A had an aura about her, that made her so different from everyone else. It was like she was always happy and content with life, no matter what the situation was. She would always find the silver lining in every cloud. Whenever I saw her, it felt like a breath of fresh air. I wanted to be around her more and get to know her better.
Eventually, we became good friends and I started to open up to her about my life and my struggles. She listened patiently and offered words of wisdom and encouragement. One fine day to me she revealed that she had cancer and didn’t have much time left.
It was then that I realized that a person’s time is limited on this earth and we should make the most of it. We should not take life for granted. From that day onwards, I decided to change my life for the better.
5 Powerful steps I took to change my life
I knew that if I wanted to change my life, I had to start making some changes in my lifestyle and mindset. I had recognized that I might not be able to change the final outcome of things, but at least my perception of things.
Identify and accept your problems
For the longest time, I knew what I had to change, but wasn’t willing to accept it. I was in denial. This is one of the first and most difficult steps. You have to be honest with yourself and accept that there are some things you need to change about your life if you want to be happy.
I for the longest time knew I was an overthinker and had a lot of negative energy. I however refused to accept that I had to work on this. Life continued and my pattern of negative thinking became worse.
I then realized that I had to accept myself with this flaw and work towards improving myself. Only when I accepted my problem, could I start taking steps to change my life.
Let go of what is holding you back
This step is closely related to the first one. Once you have identified your problems, it is important that you let go of whatever is holding you back. This might be a person, a job, an attitude, or anything else that might be causing you pain or preventing you from reaching your full potential.
I had to let go of my negative mindset and the people who brought me down. I had to let go of my comfort zone and start putting myself out there. I had to take risks and trust that things would work out for the best.
Making these changes was not easy, but it was necessary if I wanted to change my life.
Take some time to focus on yourself
They often say self-love is selfish, but honestly, it is the most important thing you can do for yourself. If you don’t love and care for yourself, nobody else will. You need to put yourself first and make sure that you are happy and healthy.
This might mean taking some time out for yourself, doing things you enjoy, eating healthy, and working out. It might also mean setting some boundaries in your relationships. You need to make sure that you are not being taken advantage of and that your relationships are healthy and positive.
Changing my life meant I had to start focusing on myself and my happiness. I needed to put myself first for once and make sure that I was taking care of myself.
Practice Gratitude
This is one of the most important steps I took to change my life. I had realized some patterns which I would follow. One of them was constant complaining. It would start of and end of with me being ungrateful. I would compare myself to others and call my life unfair.
It was when I saw A that I realized that I was so ungrateful. God had blessed me with so many things and I was thankless.
Therefore I started practicing gratitude on a daily basis. Initially, it was hard, but I stuck to a 30-Day Gratitude Challenge and that helped me develop the habit.
Now I make sure I am thankful every day and night for all that I am blessed with.
It is so easy to get caught up in our own problems and forget about all the good things we have in our lives. The best advice I could give is to make sure to take some time to think about all the things you are grateful for.
Start Journaling
As individuals, we have a lot going on in life. We need to make sure we have a healthy outlet to vent all our thoughts and feelings. This is where journaling comes in. It is important to have a safe space where you can let it all out without being judged.
I started journaling as a way to vent my frustrations and anger. But I soon realized that it was so much more than that. It was a way to get to know myself better and understand my thought process. It was also a great way to track my progress and see how far I had come.
If you are looking for a way to change your life, I would highly recommend starting a journal. It has helped me in so many ways and I am sure it can help you too.
Remember it is okay to get help
One of the biggest lessons I learned was that it is okay to get help. I used to be afraid to see a therapist, I felt they would point out all the flaws I had. I felt like I wouldn’t be able to face the reality.
I realized that I was wrong when I actually went to see one. They didn’t judge me, they just helped me understand myself better and work through my issues.
If you are struggling to change your life, don’t be afraid to get help from a professional. It can make all the difference.
If you don’t want to reach out to a therapist. You can join a support group or talk to a friend who will listen.
I used to be so independent and prideful that I would never reach out for help. But I soon realized that this was only holding me back. Asking for help is not a sign of weakness, it is a sign of strength. It shows that you are willing to do whatever it takes to change your life.
Choose to change your life today and see the difference
So there you have it, the steps I took to change my life. These are not easy changes to make, but they are definitely worth it. If you are feeling stuck or unhappy with your life, I hope this article has inspired you to make some positive changes. Remember, you are the only one who can change your life, so choose to do it.
