How to be more confident before going on a date

If you want to feel more confident before going on a date, there are a few things you can do to help boost your self-esteem. First of all, it’s important to recognize the importance of self-confidence and understand that everyone has different levels of confidence. Some people are naturally more confident than others, but that doesn’t mean you can’t improve your confidence if you feel like it’s lacking.

Are you looking to get back into the dating world and are feeling anxious? Here are some tips and techniques to be more confident before going on a date.

My Experience on Dating

I was single for the longest time, during university I barely spoke to guys. It was when I turned 27 I decided it was time to get into the dating world. I was anxious, in fact, I was so fearful. I am not sure how others feel during new dates, but as a first-timer, I was quite nervous. All these negative things came into my mind and I was sure I would look like a complete loser.

My first date sucked and I indeed was quite nervous, the guy ran away in 20 minutes making an excuse. The second time was better, but I made sure to feel more confident before going and these are some tips that worked for me.

Take some time to get ready

How to be more confident before going for a date=- Dress up

Putting on your best outfit and dressing up really helps build self-confidence.

If you are looking your best, you are going to automatically feel good about yourself. When you look your best it’s an instant confidence booster.

Therefore take the time to dress up before your date. Put on an outfit that makes you look good, but make sure something you are comfortable in. For instance, I put on a really tight outfit just to look hot, but I ended up being extremely uncomfortable throughout. Now I use the same dress on all first dates, it makes me look pretty and is comfortable.

You will notice that dressing up will change your mood and make you feel better about yourself. So next time when you are going on a date try this tip.

Spray Perfume

Spray Perfume before date

If you feel confident, sexy, and attractive, it will show. One way to feel this way is by spraying perfume before your date.

The scent of perfume can be very alluring and it will make you feel more confident. It’s a good idea to spray perfume insides of the elbows, back of the knees, chest, and the sides of the neck

When you smell good, it will make you feel more confident and attractive. So next time before your date, spray on some perfume for an instant confidence boost.

Be yourself

One of the most important things to remember when going on a date is to be yourself. Trying to be someone you’re not will only make you feel more anxious and uncomfortable.

The best thing you can do is be genuine and authentic. If you are being yourself, you will automatically feel more confident. It’s important to relax and enjoy the date for what it is. There is no need to force things or put unnecessary pressure on yourself.

Just be yourself and let the date unfold naturally.

Avoid negative thoughts and self-doubt – focus on your good qualities and be proud of yourself

It’s normal to be nervous before a first date and you will feel self-doubt and your mind will be filled with negative thoughts.

To counter this try focusing on the positive things about yourself, and focus on your strengths. This will help you feel more confident and proud of yourself.

Remember that you are a unique individual with your own set of strengths and weaknesses. Just relax and have fun during your date.

Plan something fun for your date

Fun activity for date

If you have something to look forward to during your date, it will make you feel more confident. It’s a good idea to plan an activity that you both will enjoy.

This could be anything from going for a walk in the park, or to an arcade. When you have something fun planned, it takes the pressure off and it makes the date more relaxed. I love going to Dave and Buster’s for my dates because that is something I enjoy.

It’s also a good opportunity to get to know the other person better. So next time before your date, try planning something fun that you can do together.

Don’t overthink it

Finally, one of the most important things to remember is not to overthink things. When you are nervous, it’s easy to overanalyze everything and this will only make you more anxious.

Just relax and go with the flow. The date is probably not going to be perfect, but that’s okay. Just enjoy the company of the other person and have fun.

Practice Positive Affirmations

This is something I personally find useful before doing anything which makes me anxious. Repeating positive affirmations to yourself before a date will help you believe them. Say something like “I am a confident and an amazing person” or “I am worthy of love and happiness”.

You can also say something like “I am going to have a great time on this date” which will help you feel more positive about the date.

Affirmations are a great way to help boost your confidence and they can be very helpful before a date. Just make sure that you believe them, and say them with confidence.

Give Compliments

This is another great way to boost your confidence and make the other person feel good. Giving compliments is a great way to show interest in the other person.

It’s also a good way to show that you are confident and comfortable in your own skin. So next time on your date, try giving some genuine compliments to the other person.


Confidence is key when it comes to dating. If you are feeling confident, it will show and this will help the date go more smoothly. There are a number of things that you can do to boost your confidence before a date.

Some of these things include spraying on some perfume, being yourself, avoiding negative thoughts and self-doubt, and focusing on your good qualities.

You can also try practicing positive affirmations, giving compliments, and planning something fun to do together. Just relax and have fun, and let the date unfold naturally.

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